Welcome girls to my new blog! After spending so much of my life learning everything I can about the experience of being a trans woman, I've decided to finally put it to use in a way other than microblogging and headcannoning my experiences. Let's be real: life is exhausting for all of us and nearly every other type of person likes to give us a hard time. Sometimes it's even ourselves who are happy to jump in on the pile. As somebody who loves talking and has used it to my advantage throughout life - sometimes too much even (lol) - I have always, always made it a principle to go easy on my trans sisters when getting an itch to be messy.
While I have learned much about the world through the addiction of social media and its various characters, it's come to a point where I'm wondering what the fuck I'm still doing on there. All major social media platforms, and even Bluesky (where I'm most active now), have gotten harder to tolerate even for a trans woman. Part of this is AI and the algos, part of this is because of the fascists who control it all, but also part of it has to do with encouraging gossip and sides-taking that might be wholly unecessary.
I wanna try to stop this as much as possible and I'm well aware that makes me look like a cop to some. But the truth is, none of what I write about will be about relationship/polycole/abuse patterns I see. There are victims implicated in all these scenarios, who are better treated with the healing of trusted friends than an outing report which will bring down every trans girl involved more than they could possibly manage. That is quite far from the gossip I have in mind.
What I really wanna focus on is differences in perceptions among girls who you thought you knew, ones that I have seen more than once cause rifts that worry me if any morale is to be restored for not just the most active trans women online, but also for the girls younger than us who are struggling, for girls outside English-speaking countries hoping our discourse could provide them some hope in these dark times.
In hoping to overcome my scrolling addiction, form meaningful connections with other girls, help girls both online and IRL with any issues related to my posts, and really make it so that everyone in the world knows I truly care about the well-being and safety of all trans women. Finally, I want to emphasize how many of our problems are similar to that of cis women and that we should not be afraid to describe this to them. I know some of what I say will drive people crazy and insane, but I'm used to seeing hot takes for a reason. My purpose isn't to serve as yet another condemnation platform for a broken trans girl, but to try and understand how broken others made us in a time where collective morale feels like a lost art.
